Unpopular relationship opinion: I don’t want to be in one… And everyone telling me, “Once you meet the right guy, that will change,” is, to be quite frank, really f*ing annoying.
I’ve never been that enticed by the idea of a relationship. From a young age I never saw a fairy tale and thought, “Wow! I want to find my prince one day!” or planned what my wedding would be like.
When it comes up in conversation, which it often does, I carry on the conversation because people get excited talking about these things and I partake, like a good girl does. The same goes with meeting guys. I know how much my friends enjoy talking about the guys they’ve met and the potential for a relationship that comes along with them. Are they family oriented? Do they have a good job? Does he still live with his parents?
Like a sociopath, I’m right on queue with the, “Girl you deserve better”’s and, “Ooh wife him honey!”’s. I’m happy for my friends! And I like talking about this stuff with them because it’s important! But once the conversation turns on me I really could really care less.
I’ve been in many a situationship and walked away totally fine! I had a little thing with this dude for a while and started catching feelings so I told him we needed to stop and we did just that. No heartbreak, no tears, just a clean break. My friends really couldn’t believe that I could walk away so easily and quickly from something where I started to like the guy. I give myself an hour window to feel bad and then move on. Cutting people out of my life is easier than it should be.
I give myself an hour window to feel bad and then move on.
I know I’m not alone in this thought process; I don’t get attached to other people very easily. It’s not directly correlated to being hurt, either! I just enjoy being single and don’t really care to look or be in a relationship. Relationships are a lot of work and other people’s feelings are involved (barf) and it’s just not an interest!
Living in the Midwest has made that a very interesting experience. I don’t think I’ve ever had a conversation with a female friend of mine that wasn’t focused on when, who, where, and how their wedding will go down. It seems like if you don’t have a man locked down by 25 your whole life is meaningless and you’ll die unhappy and alone. I’m in my early 20 somethings… I’m still trying to figure out how I’m going to make money, let alone figure out how to financially support myself and build with another person.
It seems like if you don’t have a man locked down by 25 your whole life is meaningless and you’ll die unhappy and alone.
Who knows! Maybe my feelings will change, but people always telling me they will gets really annoying! Don’t worry, I’m not lonely or sad, and I’m not hooking up with people as self-destruction, and I may have some commitment issues that people like to use to easily sum up for reasoning, but in all honesty I’m a girl who doesn’t fantasize about relationships and that’s alright.
Enjoy being single, queens! And don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for it.
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